By Lea Ann Roach
I can still remember words that a mentor said to me as a teenager that have stayed with me for decades—sincere, intentional words that helped me realize I was loved and seen. I doubt the person remembers sharing them, but they became shaping and sacred words to me, words that still speak to me even today.
Whether it’s a sincere face-to-face expression, a thoughtful text, or a handwritten card, I want to be intentional in letting the people I care about know how I feel about them. When someone takes the time to remind us of our belovedness, it can be incredibly powerful.
As parents, grandparents, or anyone who loves and is involved in the lives of younger people, we sometimes feel that our words don’t hold much weight with them. But I believe this couldn’t be further from the truth. Our words carry much more impact when they’re paired with genuine, non-judgmental love. Young people can sense when they’re truly accepted and supported, and that consistent love builds the trust necessary for our words to resonate deeply. Even if we don’t always see the effects, our words are like seeds planted in their hearts, growing in unseen ways.
In my newest role as a grandparent, I deeply value being a safe and loving presence for my four grandchildren. I’m blessed to have them close by and see them nearly every day, giving me the opportunity to be intentional and present. I often remind them of how loved they are—it flows out naturally because that’s how I see them. I want them to always know this.
Another way I want to share intentional words is by writing letters to them. I have written each of my grandchildren a letter, expressing my commitment to them, the joy they bring simply by existing, and my desire to be a source of unconditional love and safety. While they’re too young to comprehend these words now, my hope is that someday, they will find comfort in these letters. When life feels uncertain or they face struggles, I want them to remember that they are seen and treasured.
I plan to continue this practice of writing letters over the years, adding words of encouragement and reminders of who they are. I hope these words become a steady source of belonging for them, a reminder of their worth beyond achievements or mistakes. As they grow, I want them to know that they are loved just as they are.
For parents, grandparents, and anyone who cares for young people: remember that your words carry weight. Just as my mentor’s words stayed with me, we have the chance to be a steady voice, reminding them of their belovedness. Consider taking a moment today to write a note, send a text, or speak a heartfelt word to someone you love. You may never know just how your words will become a steady presence in their hearts for years to come.
Lea Ann Roach has served on the Youthfront staff for more than three decades and is currently Manager of Donor Records. A spiritual director, Lea Ann has a passion for helping parents and grandparents reflect the love of God to their children and grandchildren. Lea Ann and her husband, Jamie, have four adult children and four grandchildren.
